Need More Confidence?

As a kid, I struggled with confidence. I was extremely shy and never wanted to partake in any activity that I thought I might fail at. My dad always told me to never say the word “can’t.” As an adult, I am now listening to his advice. I know he is happy about that.

Do you want to build your confidence?

• Try new things outside your comfort zone.

• Connect to the Divine through meditation and/or nature.

• Practice feeling grateful for what you have to offer the world.

• Become aware of when you say the word “can’t” and transform the statement to “I can if…”

• Surround yourself with people that inspire you.

• Take baby steps towards your goals.

• Talk to yourself in the mirror and tell yourself how awesome you are.

• Be open to hearing constructive feedback from others and using that feedback to improve.

Try one of these ideas to focus on each week and see how your confidence level rises. Confidence doesn’t increase overnight and sometimes we feel really confident and the next day we don’t. It’s an ebb and flow, but you are still climbing the ladder of growth. Every hard day occurs to teach you something.

Shift your perceptions of your challenges being mistakes or failures into growth opportunities and feel yourself expand in the process!

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IF-THEN Thinking: Waiting for happiness

Have you noticed yourself thinking that something "needs to happen" before you can be happy?  If you are in relationship, you might have thought, "If he could just clean up after himself, then I'd be happy" or "If I could just have someone clean my house, then I'll be happy."  How about this one, "when I have more money, I'll by happier."  Do any of these sound familiar?  This is called conditional or IF-THEN thinking.

Most of us have had some version of conditional thinking in our minds.  When we are stuck in this waiting period, we are not enjoying the present moment and this can cause depression and anxiety. When I catch myself thinking these IF-THEN thoughts, it is usually because I have neglected my gratitude journal or have not had alone time to recharge.  Gratitude for the present moment and for whatever the future may bring is the cure to conditional thinking.  Make gratitude a daily occurrence.  Write down what you are thankful for.  Voice your gratitude aloud to your family and friends.  Every time you feel gratitude, you are helping yourself attract more things to be grateful for and you are not sitting in that endless waiting room for your number to be called.

Don't postpone your happiness for some future moment that may never happen and if it does happen, it will change, because nothing stays the same.   Change is always going to happen.  Nothing is permanent. 

Take some time today to notice your thoughts.  What is occupying your mind?  Do you want those thoughts there?  You have the power to change them!

Stepping out of the Comfort Zone

     When you have a dream and you receive a strong intuition to pursue that dream, you should listen and do not give up!  Do not let fear keep you in your comfort zone.  Sometimes fear can be just as strong as your intuition.  Take some time to meditate and become clear on what you are being guided to do.  Fear can mask who you are.  Courage is given to you when you need it and should not be ignored.  It is such an exhilarating feeling to let go of the fear and step out of your comfort zone.  

     If you fear people's reactions to your dream, don't tell them.   Let them see for themselves when you get there.  Some people can put more fear and doubt in your mind than you already have and that can be strong enough to stop you on your path to where your soul yearns to be. You, and only you, know what to do.  Stay strong in your beliefs.  If you let fear and doubt take over, then you will never feel the freedom of living your life for you. 

     Many of us change pathways throughout life.   It can be confusing when your dreams change on you.  You were lead to an amazing opportunity that you really wanted and felt lucky to have, but then you start getting messages that there is another place you need to be.    Another vision and desire is being spoken to you and there is something even better waiting for you!  The hurt, frustrations, and failures you have with each life event along your path are meant to help you grow and prepare you for your next step.   Eventually, the Divine will guide you to the perfect place, the perfect family and the perfect job for you.  Everything happens as it should.  Do not have any regrets.  Build on life lessons and be the amazing and perfect you!

     There have been many synchronicities that have lead me to where I am headed. I know that there is more than Dream Beautiful.  I feel this is leading me to something even grander. I am listening to my higher self and moving forward to what awaits me.  This gives me pure joy.   Join me on my journey as I reflect on my insights and inspirations from living this life in this moment.

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”

--Neal Donald Walsch